The Advent of Dionysus / Sexual Orientations / 7.03

8. Masturbation / Man to Woman

Like the last position, this one assumes a number of forms but, as I view it more as a form of foreplay, I won't be giving a specific form. (I speak of it further in position ten.) Except that because it's a state of preparation, it involves "disrobing the woman" which consequently can be viewed as "removing the veil," on the "wedding night." I'm not saying a woman has to be fully clothed to engage in this—on the contrary! Just that when this activity is engaged in, it can and does become "a ploy" to get her to take her clothes off.

For which reason I equate it with "fleecing the sheep," for during the "heat of passion," it would seem beneficial for the woman to remove her clothes. And indeed, during the heat of summer, it's beneficial to fleece the sheep. But the woman must first take precautions, and determine whether this is her beloved or, wolf in sheep's clothing! While it's up to the man, to determine what his true intentions are. Therefore the number "22," as corresponds to Justine (8), seems to apply: has he been tending the sheep all this time? (2), only to set her ablaze and ravage her? (22).

As the man's penis is closely associated with his wife, we're speaking of circumcising his love towards her—as she disrobes—and so an "increased sensitivity." I'm actually referring to the pleasure that she feels. And when her genitals are stimulated, she's apt to get "hot and bothered" or, "wild and passionate," which is a state corresponspent to the honeymoon (8). Thus as I've only spoken of the man's stimulation, it's time to bring this up and address the woman's needs. It raises issue with Roy Masters though, for he doesn't believe women should enjoy sex, let alone experience orgasm! But why was she given a clitoris? Indeed the key here is tenderness, rather than having her consumed, "of her lust."..."Fleece the Sheep."

9. Oral Sex / Woman to Man

This position, which is called fellatio, assumes nearly the same form as position seven, and is typically performed while the husband lays on his back or, is sitting up; nor is it uncommon for both positions to be performed—"simultaneously." Here, the woman stimulates the man's genitals by taking them into her mouth, and brings him to climax. What it suggests is seriousness, and consequently, true intercourse. And as the man's erection testifies to the potency of the relationship, his penis becomes the woman's closest and dear friend.

But I'm not suggesting a couple has to engage in this to experience "true sex." It's just that because of its nature, it requires both to be honest and truthful with each other. Hence I equate it with "slaughtering the lamb": which seems a delicate matter indeed, to be done with "serious intent." Also, a man's semen or his seed, corresponds to "the truth"—in the spiritual sense. And being one of the more intimate acts a woman can perform with a man, it corresponds more to, "true intimacy." And of course men enjoy it! But a woman shouldn't be coerced into doing it, for it can and is used as means of submission—of getting her to submit to foolishness! And there's nothing truthful about serving a tyrant. Only the dedicated wife, who of her own volition, needs to concern herself with its practice.

Thus it's interesting how the word testimony, i.e., testament, testify, comes from the word testis—or testicles! Which brings up what Abraham says to his servant about his son Isaac taking a wife in

Genesis 24: "Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites..." (vs 2-3). And brings up what Jacob says to Joseph about his burial

Genesis 47: "...put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh, and deal kindly with me; bury me not, I pray thee, in Egypt..." (vs 29). To the ancient Hebrews, this was to swear a solemn oath, something that if done today would seem ludicrous. But back then it was probably a widely accepted practice, and reflects on how innocent they must have been. Hence the correlation is clear, as a man's relationship with his wife is typically more intimate. ..."Slaughter the Lamb."

10. Oral Sex / Man to Woman

This position, which is called cunnilingus, involves the oral stimulation of the woman's genitals by the man (the vulva and/or clitoris). And is typically performed while the woman lays on her back or, is sitting up. And, like with positions seven and nine, it's often performed with position eight, and assumes a similar form. (Compare the numbers "80" and "808," as corresponds to 10.) Being one of the more intimate acts a man can perform with a woman, it corresponds to "what is objective." Therefore the ultimate objective becomes, getting the woman to experience orgasm! Consequently, the man must set his own needs aside and focus on the "overall picture."

I correlate this with "breaking the horses," for when properly done, it's done very gently; which indeed, seems the ultimate way to break a horse. And as it involves the horse's "own volition," it allows a more complete and harmonious alliance between a horse and rider. Hence it depicts breaking the woman's will, who's then allowed to align herself more completely with her husband. While the number "444," which is of Joyce (10), seems to correspond the most. (As it's depicted on the front cover, I had been wondering about it for some time.)

Which brings up a dream I had. Due to its explicitness I wouldn't ordinarily speak about it, except that it was clearly demonstrated and took on less the qualities of a dream, i.e., I was in the spirit. I was roused "to consciousness" and a face appeared before me: it was of a young woman, and she was beautiful! Detecting a slight air of conceit about her, I began to focus on the bridge of her nose, and wondered if she was Jewish. (How often is conceit associated with beauty!) I considered it for a moment or two, and then my view panned back, as I was given sight to her whole figure—"entirely unclothed." Again she was beautiful! Of a slender build, and perfect form, she was the near epitome of it. And I marveled, as she proceeded to get on her hands and knees and assume "position two"—rear entry! And as I stood back, "to maintain my objectivity," her whole body pivoted towards me, and her backside came into view. Up to this point, as nothing had been said, it appeared to be a demonstration but, as everything became "so positioned," I felt prompted, and what was being said was: "Okay, it's time to fulfill your objective"—position ten here!

And another man appeared, to my right and back behind me, and we were both looking at each other. And I said, "Well, who gets the honor?" Being intimidated by her beauty, we both hesitated. (I was still trying to maintain my objectivity.) And I said, "Well I guess it's mine." At which point my face drew ever so close to her behind—"to the most delectable sight"—and I began to proceed. Then suddenly, without warning, I was wide awake! in the real world.

It wasn't until sometime later, that it occurred to me what this signified. Here, the woman being of Jewish decent(?), corresponds to the number 4: as Judah was the 4th son of Israel, a Jewish woman portrays a "woman's will" even more. And as she appeared conceitful, it's this spirit that expressly gets broken. Then as she proceeds to position two, the number 4 becomes "44." While I was to assume position ten, as the number 44 becomes "444": indeed I maintained my objectivity throughout. Thus all three elements are incorporated—simultaneously! Surely it doesn't require much imagination to see the correlation...."Break the Horses."

11. Masturbation / The Man

This position typically has the man is laying on his back, while he practices it in private; and, though it assumes several forms, this is probably the most comfortable. As it's generally understood what's involved here, I won't go into further detail. Except that it signifies the man addressing his more "personal needs," as he addresses the "woman in himself": his anima. While the woman does the same thing when she masturbates, and addresses the "man in herself": her animus. And they both address their "inner aspects."

Hence it's interesting how up to this point, that when engaged in sex, the couple has been practicing mutual masturbation! Indeed it's all that's accomplished when they don't know each other well—and they may just as well be masturbating! To have sex with a stranger implies nothing else. But once they begin to understand their needs, and learn to express them, they strive more and more towards "intimacy," to what's Truly Marital: "And the two shall become one flesh."

Being the eleventh position, we're speaking of Penelope, the wife of Odysseus. And though she was acclaimed for being faithful, we're conceivably speaking about Odysseus. Indeed, he could easily have employed this during his long absence. (I conceived of it before finding out about his mistresses, Circe and Calypso.) And being separated from each other, conveys the privacy associated here. As they were the "closest of lovers"—originally—signifying the Celestial Marriage, Penelope would have been his anima, while Odysseus would have been her animus. As I said in Gerarai, it was Kari's picture of Penelope that acknowledged the masculine aspect—or husband—the most. While it appeared the very embodiment of a man's penis!

Thus to "herd the cows," describes the man allowing his mind to wander, yet channeling his "spiritual intent," while focusing on "his beloved." Indeed Odysseus longed to return home to Penelope. At the time I developed this, I decided not to go past the first ten expressions—beyond "breaking the horses." As I was running out of things to think of, I opted to repeat the sequence: "and work with decimals." And these last four representations do apply. So in order to herd the cows, you need horses, and the last position involves "breaking your mount." And you need horses to run a ranch! Thus it seems to culminate here, as the sequence repeats itself. While it's funny how the Trojan War, which was won in its "tenth year," was won by a wooden horse!

I'd finally like to bring up the vision I had when practicing this myself (in May 1988?). I wouldn't ordinarily speak about it, except it was more than a fantasy. It involved a "girlfriend" who I felt close to in my heart, and occurred afterwards. And I fell asleep and saw two crowns: one of royal blue and the other violet, both ornately decorated in silver. They were the most exquisite crowns I'd ever seen! surpassing anything of this world! They were real and three dimensional, but far more elaborate. The blue one portrayed the king (myself) and the violet one portrayed the queen (my girlfriend). Hence it's significant what Swedenborg says: that these colors signify the husband and wife in the conjugal relationship. They also correspond to the numbers 6 and 7 or, "67"—which is of Penelope! Now I've already said the husband and wife correspond to the numbers 5 and 6, or "56" (which is of Rachel and signifies true love) but, when taking into account the shift from the color white, they also correspond to 6 and 7. ..."Herd the Cows."

12. Masturbation / The Woman

This is nearly the same as position eleven, except it involves the woman, as she lays on her back and "in private." That isn't to say a man and woman can't masturbate in front of each other, just that I'm speaking of what's done in private. Like the previous position, it's generally understood what's involved, so I won't elaborate any further. Except like before, it signifies the woman getting in touch with her "interior," masculine aspect (animus).

Now as the first six positions are expressly coital, they correspond to the first or natural level—sex itself. And as the next four positions involve stimulating the genitals by "external means," thus allowing a "close-up view" of each other's genitals and helping to develop a more "intimate knowledge" of their function, they correspond to the second level, eroticism. While the last four positions, beginning with eleven and twelve, correspond to our more interior and "private needs," hence to the third or marital level. Which brings us to where we are now. (Initially I wasn't sure where to "break off" here, but when adding these numbers, "6 + 4 + 4," I came up with "644," which corresponds to 14. And that seemed to settle it.)

As we're speaking of position twelve, it brings up Judith, who corresponds to The Church, which is The Woman who gives birth to the man child in

Revelation 12:5. And according to Jewish custom, the likelihood of conceiving a boy child was duly enhanced, if the woman experienced orgasm during intercourse (as I said in Joyce). Which prompts this question: Why did Israel have mostly boy children?—i.e., "twelve." Could it be he understood this secret?

Also, in Kari's twelfth representation, she appears to be giving birth, while assuming this position—"masturbation." And though I won't go into detail, I recall something similar portrayed about my "rebirth experience." And I recall at least one dream I had where a woman experienced this: where the one proceeded from the other. So orgasm seems closely associated with giving birth—"you can't have one without the other"—and with a woman, more the birth of a boy. It's because she gets in touch with her inner animus, that would seem to explain why; hence a correspondence to true spiritual birth. So the question becomes, Should women be allowed to enjoy sex?

We're also speaking of Penelope when speaking of The Church, and the number 12 applies equally well to her. As we're speaking of what's "more formal." And here, as Odysseus wanders about, Penelope stays home to "maintain the fort," i.e., it's the maintaining of the structure of "homelife," that puts "a skin" over it (a roof over our heads?), and gives it a more formal appearance. Hence Odysseus maintains Penelope within (11)—"his anima." While Penelope maintains Odysseus within (12)—"her animus." Finally, as sheep are a primary commodity of The Church, it would seem fitting to "tend the sheep." And when a woman masturbates, it suggests something more gentle, yet formal, and I find it easy to draw the correlation...."Tend the Sheep."

13. Anal Sex / Man to Woman

Though mostly representative, this position is allowable between "consenting adults"—when proper precautions are taken! (primarily cleanliness and possibly some form of lubricant; nor is it advisable to alternate between this and other sex without first cleaning up). Typically it assumes the same form as position two, rear entry, which seems to describe this! While it signifies the man's "ultimate relating with his wife" or, "completion of the woman in the man" (his anima).

Like position two, the woman is in a state of alignment with the man. But by opting for this—"because he has no vagina"—the ultimate is expressed, and she's allowed to feel what he feels, as if it were happening to him. Hence the alignment, as she assumes the ultimate and lays down within. Therefore to "milk the goats," signifies what is ultimate. Why is it that when a woman has a shapely bottom, it becomes one of her "finest assets?" Which indeed can be very seductive!

This position also suggests "making the sacrifice" or, assured faith. And I equate it with the sacrifice Leah made towards Jacob. For Jacob loved Rachel, "the beautiful one," and was intent on marrying her: suggesting Leah was closer to him "in appearance"—"as a man." And he initially despised Leah and shunned her (as the position might suggest), but because of Rachel's infertility, he developed his ultimate relationship with Leah: i.e., most of his children were born of Leah. Therefore Leah, "the tender eyed one," reflects "the woman within the man."..."Milk the Goats."

14. Anal Sex / Man to Man

Like the last position, this is mostly representative, but here I'm not recommending its practice. Instead, I'm more concerned with what it signifies: "the woman's ultimate relating with her husband" or, "completion of the man in the woman" (her animus). Hence I'm referring more to what occurs in the workplace. And yet, in order to allow the woman a reciprocal to position thirteen, where she dominates, perhaps a strap-on device could be used (a dildo), where she actually does do this with the husband. It would be less out-of-bounds anyway.

Once the woman is aligned with the man, through position thirteen, he goes off to work and "makes the sacrifice"—"for her sake." Which often involves prostrating himself before an unreasonable employer—as this position implies! And while it's only representative, it's probably the most common way to express it: "taking it in the rear!" Hence as the woman "resides within," this is who he brings to work. He therefore "assumes the position," and "grovels before the boss." And while he may feel it, "externally," she feels it "internally"—"as pleasure." Which will remain the case, so long as he maintains her safety and well being "as his aim." And so the whole thing becomes acceptable to him.

Finally, as this position concerns the woman's will and its ultimate development, I equate it with "letting the horses in." We're therefore speaking of Jacob, who "sacrificed himself" for Rachel, and served her father Laban for fourteen years! Hence Jacob resides within Rachel. Beyond this, "the cycle" begins anew, with the first or, "fifteenth position": except "the door" to what is truly marital has now been opened. ..."Let the Horses in."